How to Help Someone Suicidal

It isn’t easy to care for a loved one who is feeling suicidal. You might be overwhelmed by your own feelings about the prospect of losing them, or afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. This is the best way to help:

1. Listen carefully without any judgment. Give them your complete attention, acknowledge what they say, validate their feelings and empathize with their current situation.
2. Show that you care through your words, body language and actions. Let them know that you care about them, what they are going through, and how they are feeling. Offer compassion, empathy, and concern. Start a conversation by asking the following questions:
   • I noticed you've been down lately. Would you like to talk about what's going on/how you're feeling?
   • I care about your wellbeing and want you to know I'm here to listen. Is there anything you'd like to talk to me about?
   • You don't have to go through this alone. Would you tell me what you're struggling with at the moment?
   • How can I help you?
   • Have you been thinking about ending your life?
3. Do not belittle what they say and how they feel because it is their reality. Be respectful of the individual and do not make jokes or take what they say lightly.
4. Acknowledge their pain by reminding them that their feelings of hurt are valid, their life matters and that you are here for them. Reassure them that their life CAN get better!
5. Be calm to help them carry on. Don't be alarmed by what they say or do. You need to be the rock that can steady them through their distress. If you need help, reach out to one of their family members or friends or take them to the nearest hospital.
6. Do not leave them alone until they have calmed down, and can assure you that they will not harm themselves. Ideally, wait till a family member, friend or colleague comes to be with them. Make sure to follow-up after you leave.
7. Do not offer advice, even if you think you know what’s best. You may not fully understand what they are going through, and you are not professionally equipped to provide solutions.
8. Do not promise confidentiality, even if they ask you to keep it a secret. Tell them gently, with care and concern, letting them know that you will only talk about this with a family member, friend or mental health professional.